Week 1 :: Personal Myth
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Attachment theory states that the security (or lack thereof) of the bonds we received as children determine our adult attachment style in relationships.
We seek to recreate the form of “love” that we received as children. In other words, we recreate relationships that feel similar to our nervous system as adults.
Epigenetics is the study of how trauma is passed down on the layer on top of our DNA.
We can use methods of subconscious and subtle body healing such as meditation, energy work, plants, etc. to rewire patterns in the brain/nervous system, and create balanced and healthy relationships.
Myths as stories can inspire freshness in our relationships and take us beyond our patterns.
A myth that limits us is an un-investigated story that we subconsciously believe in.
What types of partners/relationships do you seem to attract?
What coping strategies do you employ when triggered in relationships? (eating, sleeping, spiritual practice, sex, work, internet, TV)
What cultural, familial, or religious myths did you grow up with? (“All men are unreliable cheaters”, “We are genetically predisposed to addiction”, “God will punish you for xyz”)
What myths/stories were you attracted to in childhood? Which characters did you resonate with and why?
Week 2 :: Working with Wounds
Looking at previous/current relationships will show us recurrent patterns and determine our “attachment style” (anxious, avoidant, secure) in various relationships
Learning what your go-to sympathetic nervous system response is “fight, flight, or freeze” can help you be present with your body when triggered and start to listen to somatic cues
Our wounds hold the wisdom of our deeper desires to be loved, seen, and accepted
Mountain Energy versus River Energy (see video)
How polarity is vital to erotic tension in our relationships
Understanding polarity to attract a partners whose essence complements our own
How to balance masculine and feminine within ourselves through creating boundaries/structure and flow
Consider your sympathetic nervous system response when triggered — fight, flight, or freeze. Look at your relationship map from last week, and meditate on your previous relationships or situations when you were triggered. If you are having trouble, ask trusted friends or family members if they can illuminate this for you. Once you’ve determined your “go-to” response, journal on these questions for 11 minutes:
Who did this to me? (fight, flight, freeze)
Who did I see do this? (fight, flight, freeze)
Bonus: What’s is one boundary you’ve had trouble holding in the past? How would you restructure that boundary now? How would you communicate it? Name three ways you could support yourself in the process.
Week 3 :: Inner Power
* Somehow, my phone recording got cut off! If you’d like to visit the Somatic Awareness practice, it begins around 39 minutes in audio/video.
What did “power” mean in your household growing up? What did you have to do or who did you have to be to feel powerful? (journal for 5 minutes)
How do these learned power structures (familial/societal) impact your adult relationships?
Self-sourcing power allows us to: avoid co-dependence in relationships, stop projecting insecurities and suffering onto partners, be 100% authentic in who we are
Practice learning and communicating a full body “yes” and “no”
Full body consent is necessary to feel safe and prevent re-wounding in relationship
The mind can trick you, but the body never lies — repressing emotions diminishes your life force and can even be dangerous to your physical health
Identify patterns of how you give your power way in relationships
Learning your “non-negotiables” is a practice to stay in your power and hold yourself accountable
Now that you understand Mountain and River Energy, create two lists of all the “feminine” and “masculine” traits you embody. Remember, this has nothing to do with gender, these are interdependent energies that make up everyone and everything! If you are having trouble distinguishing, consider these characteristics:
Mountain/Masculine qualities are directive, penetrative, goal-oriented, structured, stable, logical
River/Feminine qualities are receptive, non-linear, open-ended, nourishing, pleasurable, empathetic, fluid
How do you express these traits in a relationship?
Do you favor one energy over the other?
What would you like to cultivate more of?
Week 4 :: Inner Marriage
Pleasure is expressed through the body.
Opening through our closures requires training our nervous systems to expand. Never open yourself or allow yourself to be opening (energetically or physically) without full bodied consent. This practice is safest when done alone or with a committed partner.
Porn, like everything else is the universe, lies on a spectrum - if you are practicing embodiment, consider pleasure coming from being fully present with your body.
Divine consorts - the union of the masculine and feminine - exist as archetypes to show us how we can come into union within ourselves.
Explore your most vast intention for relationships and share them with your partner if applicable - how do relationships take you beyond interpersonal love?
Interpersonal love versus coming together in a space of god-love or the divine as you understand it
Playing with polarity in relationship - which energy do you tend to embody? Exploring these energetics in the body can be a fun way to reveal some else’s tendencies!
where do i need balance in my relationshipS? which energy is at play (feminine/masculine)?
What is one closure i would like to open through in my personal practice?
what is the most vast intention i could hold for my relationships?
Summer 2019 Themes + Dates
Wednesday, August 7th, 2019 - 8-9 PM PST via Zoom
Wednesday, August 14th, 2019 - 8-9 PM PST via Zoom
Working with Wounds
Wednesday, August 21st, 2019 - 8-9 PM PST via Zoom
Wednesday, August 28th, 2019 - 8-9 PM PST via Zoom
Inner Marriage Healing Ceremony